Intention. There is something beautiful and difficult about intention. Intention is an important piece to living out our life purposes as well as our relationships. The world is in a strange place right now, and we all have had to adapt to this change. One of the things I have noticed in this time is how much I talk to my friends and family. Throughout the course of the day I FaceTime, House Party, text, snap, and the list goes on. I have connected with people who have been in my life, reconnected with some others, and also made new connections. As time keeps moving, I started asking myself if the communication is intentional or if I am reaching out for the sake of reaching out.
I have come to realize how important it is to look at people who reach out to you intentionally versus those who reach out to see if they still have access to you; allow me to explain. When there is intention, there is clear effort put into reaching out as well as how you converse with the person. This means that when we want to reach out to someone to genuinely know how they are doing, we become intentional. If you feel the need to call the person, call them. If it is sending a message, send the message. However, I know that there can be challenges to this.
For example, I am sure we have all had moments where we tell someone we will call them right back, when we have no intention of doing so. I hate to break it to you, but that is unintentional communication. We need to start normalizing feeling okay about ending conversations when we are depleted or simply done with the conversation. I cannot lie and say I have not done this, however I have started to challenge myself to be straightforward and say that I am done talking to someone. Be intentional in your approach and be intentional about how you move.
Now unto the people who reach out with the aim to see if they still have access to you. We are all in a time where we can easily get bored, and sometimes that leads us to reach out to people for the sake of killing our boredom. I understand that sometimes these can lead to more intentional conversations, but if someone has not spoken to you and chooses to reach out to you when there is nothing to do, that should speak volumes. People who are intentional about maintaining healthy communication don’t see a difference in the time we are in now, versus the normal lives we live. However if someone choose to reach out to you because they have time on their hands, that depicts where the relationship stands. We ALWAYS make time for things and people we love, and a pandemic is not an excuse to this.
Be intentional about your communication. Be intentional about your relationships. Live a life of intention.
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