Healing is not an aesthetic, I repeat, healing is not an aesthetic. One of the main parts of my life I have been intently working on is intentionality. Intentionality in my personal growth, my spiritual life, my work and my relationships. I wanted/want to be intentional about the things that meant the most to me and with that intentionality came the realization that this all was also going to come with many hard truths.
These same hard truths would open up the world of healing. A world where it's fast-paced but slow at the same time, its a grueling process that one must be ready to take on. When I asked to be intentional about all these facets of my life, I had to understand that my healing was not going to be a by-product of the things I am focusing on, but rather a focus so that I can sanely attain the things I need to focus on.
Recently, I took a step back and started to be more inclined to spectate than engage. In situations where I would have offered my perspective or experience, I chose to remain quieter than usual. As I delved into this “spectator’ role, I started to realize that for some people, healing had become an aesthetic; a vibe, if you will. I realized that to some extent we have made healing mainstream and turned it into this label for activities that are there for recalibration.
For some people it meant, saging, deleting socials, journaling etc. While all these things can be components of one’s healing journey, the core of healing is having very blunt and honest conversations with yourself. Conversations that uncover what hurts, angers, and triggers you. Conversations that show you where you may have neglected yourself, or places where you were putting yourself on too high a pedestal. Conversations that would bring you closer to peace of mind, and having a better sense of oneness with yourself.
Recalibration and healing are on two different wavelengths. Although they may occasionally be intertwined, there is a certain level of depth that healing uncovers that recalibration could not. We all have different ways of thinking and pursuing healing, but at the core of it, we are all trying to learn from our trauma, undo it and essentially work towards having the peace of mind that we need. When I began my journey of healing and as I continue my journey, I constantly remind myself of three things.
First, I am healing for myself and myself only. Secondly, healing is a marathon and not a race; it is an ongoing process that I have to be patient for. Last and most importantly, I have to actively seek to have uncomfortable conversations with myself because recalibration will only work for so long. You can only recalibrate what is somewhat balanced already, so if you do not start that journey...You have to ask yourself, do I have enough balance to start recalibrating or do I need to seek out the healing?
Love & Light,
Zuba
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